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I don't know if I agree with everything James has to say here but his page is a true example of what a blog is; unlike most of what is out there (including my own).

... and if nothing else he gives me something to think about.

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a thought that I jotted on a napkin one day

Relationship Cube

It’s an idea that I had one day to express the relationship an individual can have with the people around them.



With this cube the legend is as follows:
I = the Initial starting point.
F = Friendship
S = Sex
L = Love
and P = Partner

We all have interactions/relationships with people and hopefully you will find someone you can call your Partner.

With this in mind consider that you can mark your relationship with anyone you interact with on this cube.

For example take a person that you have a friendship with. Someone that you can hang out with and have a good time but there are no strong bonds with. The relationship with them could be placed on the graph along the ‘F’ axis as shown below with the yellow ball.





Alternately you may have a relationship with a family member that you Love but have nothing in common with, and hopefully there is no sex involved. This type of relationship would be listed as shown.




If you take the initial example and add the element of Love then you have a Best Friend and they could be listed as shown.




Or take the initial example of friendship and add the element of sex and you have what some people call a ‘Friendship with Benefits’ and could be listed as shown below.



Using this cube you can plot your relationship with a person and decide if they are the one you would call your Partner.



Ultimately, if the person you are charting rated at the highest level for each axis then they would be someone you should consider your partner.

There are no numbers listed on this cube because the actual values are set by the person using it. You would use it by setting the maximum values and then designate where, along the scale, the relationship rates.

I know that this cube is a basic concept but it is meant more as a starting point for thinking about the relationships you have with people.

Whether you use this or something like eHarmony’s 29 dimensions of compatibility, they are both simple methods to try and help someone think about and maybe come to understand their relationships with others. Both are simplistic in nature and neither can truly cover every aspect of a relationship....
... its just an idea jotted on a napkin one day